"The Hopeless Romantic" - An individual who has ridiculous fantasies and ideals about courtship and/or his/her ideal mate. This is the girl who dreams of her knight in shining armour, aka Mr. Prince Charming. The hopeless romantic girl dreams of the Perfect Guy who possesses all the characteristics that are desirable to her. The Hopeless Romantic is usually screwed because his/her expectations in real life have been disappointing due to media's misconceptions.
"The Realist" - This person has come to terms with their "Hopeless Romantic" side. He/she has learnt that no one is perfect, and not to set far fetched expectations that will land him/her as an old maid/man with a bunch of cats. They believe in the notion of Love, but believe that 99.9% of the time, Love may not be enough to overcome obstacles such as clashes in personality, financial issues and such. The Realist is cautious. The Realist carefully considers each prospective relationship rationally and decides whether it is worth pursuing, rather than shooting down every opportunity because someone didn't possess a ridiculous irrelevant quality such as the power to go through walls.
"The Loveless" - He/she is bitter about the notion of love in a romantic sense. He/she doesn't believe in love, or has been too hurt from previous experiences to attempt to love again. He/she scorns others in love and may likely end up being an old man/maid. Sometimes, the Loveless may revert back to a Hopeless Romantic or a Realist.
"The Idiots" (or, the really courageous/brave) - These people believe that true love is able to overcome any and every obstacle. They believe that if you are capable of true love, you will not mind a person's financial status, educational level, personal past/history, looks, or bad qualities. In other words, there are some people out there that believe than they can embrace someone without any reservations in the name of true love. These people are willing to sacrifice everything in the name of love (money, career, family), even their own lives for that person. They likely represent 0.01% of the world's population - a rare and dying breed.
I used to be a Hopeless Romantic, but now I'm a Realist. Yeah I still dream, but I know my dreams aren't likely going to happen. Whatever Idiot resided in my mind has been smacked out by rational thinking and experience. If you had no reservations, then technically you should be able to love everyone, and anyone, which of course does not happen. Some guys like a girl because she's prettier than the average Jill. Some girls will like a guy because he's smarter than the average lump of coal :P. Heck, sometimes you don't even know why you like someone :/
I know a lot of women who wouldn't consider a guy if he only went to college or only finished high school, or if he was a bricklayer, construction worker or any other occupation that requires a lot of manual labour. Realists unite!!
True love is necessary for successful relationships? That's another blog altogether, signing off.
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I think I'm the same as you...although I haven't COMPLETELY converted to the realist side.
Janet, long time no chat (cuz you were so busy with work last week)!!! I must chat with you soon!!! I hope to be a realist...
- Esther
Everyone has their ideal person mind. Whether you're a hopeless romantic, a realist or whatever, it's in our nature to have an idealized notion of the future.
I don't think even people who consider themselves realists aren't without their hopeless romantic moments or needs.
On the flipside...I don't think I've ever encountered anyone who had such rigid and implausible expectations of love that they wouldn't recognize a truly positive situation when they saw it.
And while I can't speak to the 'idiots', I do know the 'loveless' exist and I think a lot of them used to be 'idiots'.
Anyways...my $0.02 is that 99% of us are realists but we all harbour our own hopelessly romantic ideals (especially at a subconscious level well beyond the reach our our own rationalization) at the same time and if we're in deep enough, we're all capable of acting like idiots or even loveless as well. Counterpoint anyone???
-purple pills
Ya...I rambled on about a lot...but I was just trying to say that as much as we like to label people as 'hopelessly romantic', 'idiots', or 'loveless' as a particular phase in life or even the person him/herself...these are just behaviours, beliefs and reactions that manifest in the face of certain stimuli. It all depends on your options (reminds me of a Chris Rock joke). Those with lots of options will be MORE hopelessly romantic (and selective) than usual. Those with no options will be loveless and those with just one option (or just the perception)will be idiots.
-purple pills
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