Disclaimer: For some reason, this quote kept on nagging at my mind. This is nothing personal, so don't ask me what's wrong - because there's nothing wrong :) Again, these are my thoughts, so if I offend you, I'm sorry!
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I'm sorry, but yes it does. While on the whole I might agree with the statement, if you look at it carefully it's actually wrong. I don't care if you do something out of love; if you're wrong you better apologize. Just because you're doing something because you love someone or reacted a certain way doesn't mean you shouldn't feel crappy for what you did.
Here are some examples:
You beat the sh*t out of someone because you thought your significant other was 'cheating' on you.
You forgot an important date (birthday/anniversary/etc) AND you forgot to buy a present.
Surprise surprise, you didn't do your share of the housework, AGAIN.
You brought up the dirty past, when you promised you wouldn't, because you were so pissed off.
You made a mistake (I'm sure you've made a mistake).
You went through someone else's stuff because you were 'concerned' about them.
Love doesn't make you perfect; I think it can actually turn you into a green eyed monster! How many people can reach the level of love like that from the Bible, you know that famous verse. For the non-Christians, I'm sure even this passage is familiar to you. It is as follows:
"Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love.”
-1 Corinthians 13:4
You've never been jealous when your guy/girl talks to someone else? (I can see you turning green :P) You've never been selfish or got upset when s/he couldn't spend time with you? (OMGosh, I haven't seen you in 3 hrs *whines*) You've never gotten pissed off at your boyfriend/girlfriend?
If you said 'no' to all the above questions, I'd say your pinocchio nose is starting to grow. Do you know WHY you get pissed off/jealous/upset - it's because you like/love him/her. It's actually quite normal, rest assured. People (that being mom/dad/friend) wouldn't be 'on your case' if they didn't care about you. You constantly wish they'd get off your back, well when there's no one to tell you what to do, then you'll realize the magnitude of loneliness you'll feel. And loving someone (whether it be family/friend/romantic) doesn't make you or that person perfect either. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but you're never going to be perfect :P and you're going to make mistakes till the day you die (not necessarily on a daily basis though). Any human should have the decency to feel bad for hurting another person. If you love someone, you should feel extra remorseful, not say "Well I love you and I only acted that way because I love you and so I shouldn't have to say sorry." Love doesn't justify your actions as right. Just like good intentions doesn't always lead to a good conclusion.
Love means saying you're sorry and truly meaning it. There are different 'forms' of love, but the rules are universal.
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I agree with you that people should apologize for wrongful deeds especially if done towards loved ones. Unfortunately, we tend to take advantage of family in the sense that we know they love us unconditionally so we don't apologize when we are at fault. And yes, we are jealous creatures and would feel bad if a family member favoured another sibling more than ourselves.
As for relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends, I think that green eyed monster comes out because people are worried that the other party will stray away.
And your comment about bringing up the dirty past when you promised not to mention it again... well, digging into the past shows a pattern of actions in my opinion. I don't know why anyone would promise not to mention it again if the other party repeats the same thing over and over again.
I agree with your post.
The great thing about love though, is that if you love someone, you'll feel really bad for doing something (if you did something wrong), and you'll want to change yourself for the better...and the other person will believe you and forgive you.
I agree with your comments. If that's the way you interpret the quote.
I thought it meant more as in "In love, you know the person so well that he/she doesn't have to say sorry because you already know how they feel."
Like, "I'm so sorry." "I know."
Yep, that's what I think too, Lucy, but Janet found out that an actor misquoted his line.
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